"Victim" that is pointed out here is not the actual victim of a traumatise experience or something of that sort, but "victim" here refers to people who view their lives through the lense of "Other people do it to me and it's not my fault". I'm sure everyone has encountered this type of people throughout our lives or we might even be one of them.
So, first let's look at the possible reason on why people have the victim mindset.
Firstly, they felt that they are always being taken advantage of or have the feeling of being treated unfairly of which leads them to feel powerless. This reassures them that no matter what, it will never be their fault. In this case, the personality of one also plays a role in feeling "victimised".
Secondly, people fall into this victim mentality as it makes their life easier such as avoiding responsibility, to stay in their comfort zone and also to gain attention. It's a way to save themselves in the midst of problems or any kind of shortcomings they have.
A victim mindset can also be emerged if valid concerns are not addressed properly which causes them feeling helpless. As these types of people are repeatedly being ignored after making a legitimate complaint, they will come to a conclusion that nothing will change. Thus, causes them to feel victimised.
Thus, the simple ways to avoid having a victim mentality are:
1. To always take responsibility
Whether in your personal life or working life, do take responsibility of your own work and position. Do not get away with it or ignore as it is not only selfish but also self-destructing. Avoid blaming others for your own shortcomings but instead acknowledge it and try to strive to be a better individual.
2. Be grateful
Stop comparing yourself with your peers and instead be grateful and have faith in yourself that something better is coming up.
3. Take a break
However, to try to break out from victim mentality could be hard as this need a strong determination and the correct attitude. It's ok to slip out. Take a break and be nice to yourself and try again.
So let us all get up and free ourselves from this mindset to see the true potential of ourselves.
Prepared by,
Nur Hannah Abdul Hamid
Lecturer, Diploma of Health Science
Vision College
